Have you seen the Will Smith movie Focus? While I didn't see it initially when it first came out, my husband suggested it a few months ago for our " movie night" after watching the trailer. I was disappointed because I remember being genuinely disinterested when this movie was released. Boy, was I wrong about this movie! I ended up loving it and have actually suggested it to other people. For those who haven't seen it, I will try and not spoil it, but to those who have seen it, I know you understand me when I say the subconscious mind is a trip!
The subconscious mind plays heavily in this movie and how subconsciously everything you see and hear gets ingested somehow. Unbeknownst to you you're taking in thoughts and judgements and eventually they can turn to choices and actions. Even now, it never ceases to amaze me.
As I preface this blog post with the introduction of Focus, Im reminded subconsciously this blog post began weeks ago. Let's start with a couple of weeks ago when this blog began. I was watching my Saturday favorite AM Joy. She briefly spoke about the new Essence magazine #STAYWOKE edition she was featured in and flashed a copy of the Essence cover. I couldn't wait to read it knowing it would arrive in my mailbox, so while I hadn't read it yet, the thoughts and ideas were floating around in my brain. I had ingested the excitement of it and that was Thought #1
Of course because I'm on social media pretty regularly, I knew Starbucks was coming out with a Unicorn Frappé. I was surprised on the following Wednesday when all the pics and selfies of this colorful creation were all over FB and IG. I didn't even want one for myself, but I too was sucked in, I'm sure the limited availability of this drink added to the madness. That Saturday, Stevie and I were hanging out with my girlfriend at Starbucks to ride the wave but we came up short, they were already sold out. Stevie had to settle for a white mocha hot chocolate instead. The good thing was the interest in magic and unicorns inspired my last blog post about Magical Unicorns and how rare and beautiful they are just like our black girls. I thought about how I could harness that into something tangible for our black girls that wasn't a limited edition. I started thinking about a bright colorful Magical Unicorn concept as a way to add a little sparkle to her day. I had ingested the idea of never ending magic and girl power and that became, Thought #2
Now we're at Monday and as I'm logging on to Twitter, imagine my surprise when I click on Shea Moisture because it's trending number 1, but not in a good way. Over the course of this past week, I read comments from consumers, business owners and from people who just had their 2 cents to add about their feelings and thoughts. Some comments were scathing and some were supportive and as I read them I was reminded of the Maya Angelou quote " I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel." For many, the feeling of being disposable brought what was perceived as anger, but really I had ingested the hurt Black Women were feeling and it became Thought #3
So now let's add those thoughts and ideas to the ones that are already floating around in my head but haven't come together yet to make a point. Yesterday was Friday and as always, I watch Shark Tank without fail unless it's a rerun. I was all set to watch, I had my pint of guilt free HALO ice cream (Birthday Cake) and the remote in my hand only it didn't come on. 😩 Instead ABC was marking 25 years since the LA Riots. Ok cool, this is definitely interesting so I watched. I remember the riots and although I'm from California, I remember having to watch the coverage from my dorm at Howard U. Keep in mind, media coverage wasn't the same back then as it is now so many things weren't covered in depth and depending on where you were in the country, if it wasn't actually in the paper, you may not have heard about it at all. So to my surprise, as I'm watching, some of this is new.
So I'm watching, and we get to the part where they take us back to Latasha Harlins, the 15 year old black girl who was shot in the back of the head by the Korean store owner 2 weeks after Rodney King. The store owner was given 5 years probation for killing a young black girl she thought was stealing although surveillance camera footage showed otherwise. I was so moved and bothered by it that I found myself this morning googling " Soon Ja Du 2017" and the Judge Joyce Karlins. I found a Where are they now article where I learned that Mrs. Du's store burned down in the riots, somehow I think I knew that already. However, what struck me the most was Latasha's Aunt Denise who still "mourns the wasted potential of her niece who had dreamed of becoming a lawyer...she represents so many that would have been something to somebody." I ingested the regret from the unrealized and that became Thought #4.
I got it just like that, in an instant. Black Girl, you were BORN SOMEBODY. You don't have to become what you already are. You don't need to live up to or gain anyone's favor, you already have it. It's in you already, now just live like it. Don't accept anything less. You are beautiful, magical, powerful, smart, able, determined, appreciated, valued and worthy. Never under any circumstances forget that or accept someone's denial of your magic. Remind a black girl of that today, especially a little black girl.
Until next time, Be a Way Maker and a Path Paver.
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